“ When we go through grieving, many friends and relatives bet on the same assumption and suggest that we find a way to distract and to “forget” soon. Well then, this assumption is wrong, grieving doesn’t mean forgetting who and what we have lost – on the contrary, grieving and in order to leave minimally the profound pain is needed to remember. ”

In this beautiful text you read here the psychoanalyst Contardo Calligaris tells us about how going through grieving is much more about remembering than forgetting. Different from what many people (who have never gone through grieving) think. Essential Reading for someone who wants to help a friend or relative who is in this situation.

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